Every month theres a party me and friends go to, well, last time something happened... (not gonna say what) and my gf was mad, so I promised I woulnd't go to any more if she wasn't there... (she wasnt there last time)
Yet todays the party, she can't go... Yet I've NEVER missed one, and my rides already on there way... Gotta decide what to do, I don't think the same thing that happened last time will happen... But heres my options...
Go... and have fun, but may make gf mad
Stay home and be a coward but stay gf happy
Make an excuse for not being able to go, friends will tell im lying, but gf is happy for me not going...
No, you dont know what happened to have her not wanting me to go...
Christ, then don't ask for advice >.>
No offense meant, but this is downright stupid. You start off your OP by saying "something happened but I won't say what", someone gives you advice and you say "no, I can't use that advice, you don't know what happened".
Snyd, you ought to give some thought to the person you want to be. Do you want to be the person who breaks promises and inserts appendages into other young men/women (EDIT: or inserts illicit drugs into your many bodily orifices), or do you want to possess a character worth respecting by demonstrating a basic respect for others? It's easy to play along with life as a bon vivant self-indulgent sociopath, without a care or concern for the well-being of those with which you interact, but that lifestyle invariably alienates anyone who might regard you fondly. Not all ethical systems concern themselves with rules and prohibitions; this is a more Platonic, more character-oriented ethic, it's chief concerns expressed in two questions: What constitutes a good life? What form of character cultivates those constituents?
Also, you ought to have more dignity than to post personal angst on the internet. It's embarrassing.
if i were you id make the gf happy. friends can be just as much trouble as love. but love can sometimes be what you have always been seeking. seriously screw the friends if they want you to do something your gf won't want then they are what you must avoid... (Aka friends and btw i prefer love over friendship any day.)
While there are times that the old saying of bros before hos applies, I think that if you promised something to someone, you really should stick to your word. Be fucking consistent.
So much for people who consider themselves more mature than their pals.
I wasn't serious, but be careful with the "she wasn't mad" stuff. This tends to backfire, if she really had an issue with you going there.
This man is wise. If a woman is angry, she'll tell you. But if she's truly hurt, she'll say nothing until she has the opportunity to pay you back appropriately.
...And, well, it kinda sounds like you've got it coming >_>
Every month theres a party me and friends go to, well, last time something happened... (not gonna say what) and my gf was mad, so I promised I woulnd't go to any more if she wasn't there... (she wasnt there last time)
Yet todays the party, she can't go... Yet I've NEVER missed one, and my rides already on there way... Gotta decide what to do, I don't think the same thing that happened last time will happen... But heres my options...
@SnyderGuy: Go
2 or 3, perhaps more 3. Keep her happy ;)
4. Get new GF who lets you go to your party.
Tell your friends what happened and why you can't come. Simple as that.
@Kueken531: Go
No, you dont know what happened to have her not wanting me to go...
I went anyways, didnt see your replies, but, she wasn't mad, not for as I can tell, yeah...
Well, g2g, gotta go to school :/
@SnyderGuy: Go
I wasn't serious, but be careful with the "she wasn't mad" stuff. This tends to backfire, if she really had an issue with you going there.
Christ, then don't ask for advice >.>
No offense meant, but this is downright stupid. You start off your OP by saying "something happened but I won't say what", someone gives you advice and you say "no, I can't use that advice, you don't know what happened".
what is this i dont even
@Mozared: Go
I like your post and totally agree with it.
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Snyd, you ought to give some thought to the person you want to be. Do you want to be the person who breaks promises and inserts appendages into other young men/women (EDIT: or inserts illicit drugs into your many bodily orifices), or do you want to possess a character worth respecting by demonstrating a basic respect for others? It's easy to play along with life as a bon vivant self-indulgent sociopath, without a care or concern for the well-being of those with which you interact, but that lifestyle invariably alienates anyone who might regard you fondly. Not all ethical systems concern themselves with rules and prohibitions; this is a more Platonic, more character-oriented ethic, it's chief concerns expressed in two questions: What constitutes a good life? What form of character cultivates those constituents?
Also, you ought to have more dignity than to post personal angst on the internet. It's embarrassing.
Bring the party to your girlfriend. Set a mini-party up, tell your friends you're not going, and spend time with her :)
@SnyderGuy: Go
if i were you id make the gf happy. friends can be just as much trouble as love. but love can sometimes be what you have always been seeking. seriously screw the friends if they want you to do something your gf won't want then they are what you must avoid... (Aka friends and btw i prefer love over friendship any day.)
While there are times that the old saying of bros before hos applies, I think that if you promised something to someone, you really should stick to your word. Be fucking consistent.
So much for people who consider themselves more mature than their pals.
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This man is wise. If a woman is angry, she'll tell you. But if she's truly hurt, she'll say nothing until she has the opportunity to pay you back appropriately.
...And, well, it kinda sounds like you've got it coming >_>